I want to continue to evolve the vision I had for my family. I have the 2 kids who are 2.5 years apart and marriage of 10 years to a person I want to continue to build my life with- but buying into the nuclear family sets us up for failure, and intentionally creating more community makes my life so much better. During the isolation of the pandemic lockdown, I saw how much I rely on all the caregivers in my kids' lives, and I now definitively know I need to rely on other people who love my kids to give them the life I want for them and the parents I want for them. My twin sister is still TTC her second child and I am very much trying to give her the space to think about her decisions about expanding her family away from any pressure from the rest of her family. We love her almost 5 yo miracle baby and if the quest for her second living child needs to be shed then we will support that decision as well.
I want to continue to evolve the vision I had for my family. I have the 2 kids who are 2.5 years apart and marriage of 10 years to a person I want to continue to build my life with- but buying into the nuclear family sets us up for failure, and intentionally creating more community makes my life so much better. During the isolation of the pandemic lockdown, I saw how much I rely on all the caregivers in my kids' lives, and I now definitively know I need to rely on other people who love my kids to give them the life I want for them and the parents I want for them. My twin sister is still TTC her second child and I am very much trying to give her the space to think about her decisions about expanding her family away from any pressure from the rest of her family. We love her almost 5 yo miracle baby and if the quest for her second living child needs to be shed then we will support that decision as well.
I love the trauma survival sweater analogy. Thank you for sharing xx